Since starting my blogging, influencing, social media journey…whatever you want to call it, I am happy to have a good percentage of men following me and my journey. In fact, 37% of my audience are men! Welcome! Not only is it important for women to take care of our health, but it’s just as important for men. It’s double important for us to support each other. If you are married, having that companion push you a little more, help you shop and cook healthier meals, encourage each other; it’s all important to keeping up a healthy lifestyle.
I am bringing up the topic of “self-care”. Its seems quite trendy these days. I get to meet many young women as I travel across the country for my day gig, and there is an common thing I hear when I attend conferences and consumer shows. Women are focusing more on themselves these days. Don’t worry they are not neglecting the kids and the pets! When I became a mom, my sole focus was on the family. I tried to do it all, draining my energy, my health and acquiring daily aches and pains. I didn’t know any better. I never witness my mom getting her nails done, having spa days, girl’s nights out or even taking a girl’s trip. It was the same for my dad. They worked. And they worked. They did play, but playing revolved around golf for my dad, while my mom got dinner ready, did the shopping, took care of all the errands, etc. Don’t get me wrong. She wasn’t complaining. Self-care just wasn’t a thing and she was perfectly happy taking care of all of us.
Self-care is a big topic among some awesome ladies I recently met. You can follow them at The Thinking Branch, Courtney Brennan and Kelly Brennan. They are amazing women! After interviewing all three of them this week, it got me thinking, what about the men? Often, the “man of the house” is certainly under just as much pressure. To me, it always seemed easier for my husband Paul to go to work, but in reality, it was stressful because he was the bread winner at the time. He didn’t have a choice. He had to make the money while I was a stay at home mom. He worked long hours and had a stressful commute and was building our own business.
He never came home and said, “I’m going out with the guys or Hey, I really need a spa day”. Self-care is indeed important. We all need to take time to reflect, unwind, relax and get out of our daily rut every once in a while. We can also do things daily to maintain self-care. In all honesty I have not contemplated self-care and what I would like to do….maybe it’s this blog helping me with self-care. I do try to workout, but I am not sure that’s what I consider self-care as I begrudgingly do it. LOL!
For Paul, it’s having a glass of wine and taking saunas. For my youngest son, it’s video games and for my oldest is binge watching Netflix. Self-care doesn’t have to be an elaborate trip or a day at the Spa, albeit that sounds pretty good about now.
The important thing is to recharge yourself, daily, whether you are a man or a woman. You may have to organize your schedules, but commit to doing something for yourself. Maybe sleeping in an extra thirty minutes on your day off. Maybe going for a long walk on a Sunday. Whatever it is, just make the time to do it, even if it’s just ten minutes of meditation or stretching.
I was just telling Paul about this blog topic and he literally said, “what the hell is self-care?” When I explained it to him, he said, “that’s just bullshit”.
I guess I won’t be losing him to a weekend with the guys anytime soon. LOL!
While he seems like he is a crusty old man, he did reach sixty-five this year, but believe me, if I proclaim a self-care day, week or month, he’s all in!
Let me know your thoughts. I would love to hear how you are going to make some time for yourself. Leave a comment below. I would also appreciate you sharing the link to this blog.
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